Oi

You know the thing I hate most about extra-marital sex? It destroys lives.

Joe, you were stupid. You're not yet twenty years old, you work a couple of minimum wage jobs, there's no way you can support a family. Above and beyond all that, you'd consecrated your body to God and sworn off till marriage. When I first read your post, I wanted to cry. You've hurt yourself, you've hurt another person - and those are bad enough - but above and beyond that, you've hurt God. I still want to cry for you, because you're destroying your life; both the one here and the one that is coming.

It's not like the whole thing was a momentary loss of control; you planned it all out. Your main regrets are that condoms are so expensive and that you've (temporarily, in your mind) messed up a good friendship. That's foolish, Joe. And, if the condom messed up and you end up with a baby on the way, what will you do? You believe abortion is murder, so you'll have the girl keep your baby. You'll probably get married. You'll end up just like my brothers and my sister - your life ruined, stuck in a minimum wage job that doesn't support your family, possibly stuck with an annoying one-week-stand that's stretched out "till death do you part", mimicking the very thing you despise: your parent's idea of family planning, ticked off at life and struggling through it, all because of one stupid decision.

Oi, my foolish, foolish friend. God forgive you.